Sue William Silverman

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Thanks for writing your story, I'm 52 and sitting in awe at the truth I can now hold to. I found out 14 yrs ago that I'm a relationship/love addict, prior to that I had no idea I could be labeled other than different plus many other titles. If you hadn't written your story I wouldn't have the power I do now, even with as much as I've tried MANY ways to overcome this addiction, to be sober. I feel I need to reach out to others and write my own even at the expense of hurting a few. Our stories have a lot of similarities that drove the message home. No more denial, no more excuses. Thanks again for the price you've paid for us.
Debra

From a victim of violence and injustices stemming 42 years upto the present day.Our best wishes to fellow victims of violence and injustices. thank you.

Just wanted to say I saw Love Sick a little over a year ago and than had to read your book. I just started to revisit them as I often do. Not many books/movies make me tear up. Thank You.

Hi I hope you don't mind me posting on here as I'm a 22 year old guy but I think my girlfriend might be going through this. About a year ago I found out that when we had just started dating she was living with a boyfriend dating me and another guy and through out our 3 - 3 1/2 year relationship she has been "dating" other guys (she never met up with them) then I found out she has signed up to lots of dating websites then a few months ago I foundout she has signed up to websites for people looking for sex. About 2 months ago I found out she was meeting up with a married man (one of her messages said "I'm so glad I have found a guy that doesn't cheat"... He is married therefore he is cheating) and I bumped into them in town holding hands and kissing, then about 3 weeks ago she disappeared for a day (she was "meeting friends" I'm guessing that would be the same ones who called me to see if she was ok as she never turned up) and then about 2 weeks ago she disappered for a day and a half (although she did text back when I asked if she was ok and safe) I don't know what is wrong as she just says I don't like talking about my feelings when I ask her but I no something is bothering her as in the past she has told me she doesn't like sex (which isn't a problem as I love her for who she is not what we do or don't do its her body and her choice) before that she almost always enjoyed sex and when she didn't I would stop and say "you're not really into this are you, do you want to watch a film instead?" then tell her I love her and give her a kiss but now she just watches porn every night or chats to other guys on sex sites, we don't sleep in the same bed, she says she doesn't love me anymore so I don't know if its just she doesn't want to be together any more or if something is upsetting her all I want to do is hold her and tell her how much I love her and that I will always be here for her no matter what but she just pushes me away and I don't know what to do anymore but I'm not going to give up on her until I'm sure she is ok then if she doesn't want to be with me I will respect that (I can't get onto my email as I only have Internet access via iPod)

Writing from Zhengzhou, Henan Province, China:

Moments ago, I read a cnn.com article(7/27/11)on the federal SORNA (Sex Offender Registration and Notification Act). Immediately, your story, as detailed in your memoir, "Because I Remember...," flashed in my mind. Your fathers's regular and long-term assaults surely qualify him as a sex-offender, even though he was never criminalized. He was a criminal of the most despicable kind.

I often talk about the devastating impact of family member initiated sexual assault with my friends. Inevitably, your name and testimony become the central focus of the conversation. Your experience enables others to truly understand the hellish mindset of the perpetrator, and the resilence of a survivor.

Your memoir is fresh, current, and necessary. It's a part of my hometown library (New York City - Manhattan) because I insisted that the book be added. We now have three copies that circulate with frequency.

I commend you for sharing your testimony, Ms. Silverman. Your readers support you...always. You've done mankind a great service by exposing your life story.




I read the first 3 pages and the fear of hearing someone else writing my story affected me. Im still shaking my head and scared of the shame, embarressment and risk writing a book about my life can bring. Thank You for writng "fearless confessions", Ill get past page 3 and maybe find the strength to write my own book one day

You are simply a terrific writer. Hands up to you! Susan

Sue -- Because of your courage in all three of your books, Sue, after 45 years of physical, verbal and sexual abuse in three different marriages, I have begun to write my memoir with the help of a writing coach. I live as a retired pastor in Holland, Michigan, where you once visited during Tulip Time. My story needs to be told in a conservative community where men still reign over submissive women. Thank you for encouraging me to finally have a 'voice' that others like me will proceed on the journey to freedom. Nancy Boelens

Sue, I feel, we are have in some way similar pasts, feelings and way out of it. Writing really works well and does wonders :-) Please keep inspiring and helping others. Your well-wisher with love and gratitude, Janaka das


Sue,

As an child sexual abuse survivor and a recovering sexaholic, I consider you courageous for writing/speaking out. There is a great sense of shame and it is SO easy to just want to hide these aspects of our lives away, to deny them. But, part of the healing process is facing those things which have tormented you. It is even more difficult to share these things as there is a stigma publicly attached to them and there is the fear of "upsetting others". However, as you no doubt see, a healthy family does not hold dark secrets and by holding onto them, you are doing the family no favor. Anyway, I hope to write what I have learned one day. Obviously, part of being able to write about your journey is achieving victory.

On an possibly related note, I've developed a passion for writing and wonder how I would do a career transition into that.

Thanks,
Rich

Hi Sue,
I watch Love Sick the other day. I am 47 and was sexually abused by my stepfaher. That movie opened my eyes as to why I have had so many unsuccessful relationships. I just wanted to thank you for this eye opening experience. I plan on buying your books and starting counseling for myself. Good luck in all you do... Susan L

Hello Sue,
I just finished watching the movie Love Sick on my lifetime...just wow...you are very brave to stand up to your demons like your father...I love movies that help others to understand that is ok to get the help they need...the best to you on your new journey in life.....tamicruz

Hi Sue,
I have looked up a number of books I'm interested in reading from your reading list and cannot find many for the Kindle. Is there some reason?
Thanks

Hi, Sue,
a lot of Hungarian women and girls say a loud THANK YOU for Your brave books.
Warm HUGS from Budapest,
Mari

Hi, You were recommended to me by Susan Tiberghien at the IWWG Conference in NYC on 4/17/10. I am also writing a memoir on my childhood sexual abuse. I would appreciate talking to you. Please contact me.
Thank You, I look forward to hearing from you, Dolores Rose

I just finished reading "Because I remember terror" WOW! What you endured and survived, was atrocious! Your ability to express and share with us is amazing. I could actually connect with your "love" for your father. Although I did not endure what you did, or for as long, I romantisized the sexual abuse of my father. He left his wife for me, afterall. It helped me to see that I was not the only one who felt this strange way about someone who had molested me and traded me for others. Thank you for your book, I look forward to reading your other books as well. Sherry in Wyoming

Sue,
I just finished re-reading "Because I Remember Terror..." as kind of a prerequeset before starting your second book "Love Sick...". Each time I read the book I was overwelmed with a want (or need) to tell you that I love you. That is the feeling inspired by reading the story of your childhood. I want you to know that I love the little girl Sue who never felt or knew love. I hug your book and say it before putting it down after each reading.
God bless you,
Connie

Just finished your book "Because I remember Terror... What a profound and insightful book. It's amazing how you are able to share your horror and allow us to see your growth. Thank you for your book.

Hi Sue...I truly hope you receive this message. I just finished reading Chapter 1 of "Love sick."I was surprised because your words are my words. Not so long ago I started writing a memoir but felt I was "BETRAYING" my abusers-how absurd-I know.Maybe
we can talk / write/ share....I'm sure you're busy so no pressure; I will however look further into your "CRAFT of WRITING". Thank you for sharing and I'm sorry you had these experiences and were hurt.
In kindness, Lorraine Lang

hi sue how are you? i recently watched your movie on life time and it was so sad! the red scarf brought back memoris to me my dad had given me one of those! LONG STORY!! so i just wanted to apprciate you for this journey! link me up my e mail add is fuzzybaby... thanks sue!!

I hope you all success in writing and especially getting published. Which brings me to my query, My Father of nearly 78 has written his memoirs,and no he wasn't Presodent,nor mixed up in a scandel yet his individual common story which speaks highly of the love he still carries for his Father well I think its a good read. So could you,would you point me in a direction of non vanity and non pod publishers who might be interested. Thankyou and G-d bless
steven_seeks@...

What a great story and to have a book made into a Lifetime drama movie...wow! I'm very impressed with your story and work.
JJ in Miami

Dear Sue: I am a member of NABBW, and saw a posting regarding your book. I can't wait to read it. I've written my memoir; Ghost Child to Triumph (from a child with no voice, to someone who speaks up against injustice), and it is being edited right now.
Smiles n Hugs, Alice

I never realized I was a "sex addict" until I watched the movie based on your book, "LoveSick: Secrets of A Sex Addict." I could relate to the movie-most definitely. All my life, I have been searching for love-in the same ways you were (I still am searching for love like you did). Now I know I need help. Thank you for writing the book about your addiction. Much Love To You, Sue!

Kelly ~ + ~

Hi sue I'm reading your book "Because I remember terror Father I remember You" I'm intrigued by the book it's truly shocking what you endured as a young child. I admire you for what you are doing today and how you pulled yourself out of that situation not many people could. You are a remarkable person and hope to read more of your books! Astrild Highschool student

Thanks, Sue!

Hi Sue,I want to thank you for being so brave. I have been reseaching sexual addiction for some time now and am more inclined to trust the word of someone who has actually been through the trauma and has the heart to face it and tell their story. I happen to be in love with a sexual addict. She is 10 years my senior and married. we met seven years ago. She told me i would fall in love with her and i did. I think she got a little more than she bargain for, Ha! I quick relized she was different in the way she loved. Weeks into the the affair she asked to tell me about he father and she was unusually honest with me concerning her dangerous affairs (previouse and current). Even though i was upset, I really wanted to understand how this loving person could put herself and family at such risk. There where definitly some wires crossed. I looked into it and started reading anything on the subject, which at the time was not much. Any way, we would spend alot of time talking about what i had read. Most of the time she would be very uncomfortable. I did for a period of about two years get her to a sex theropist, although ,i had to take her (I loved it)to each session. He told her that I was part of her addiction and she ended up going back to her husband,Geez!As It works out I was addicted to her to. Well anyhow, we remain to be good friends and confidants. It seems as though she has her love addiction contained, But no sex for over one year.Is that good? Iam concerned about her other addictive traits, re:seditives and eating (under weight),also Migrain head aches,and depression.

Hi Sue, I have not read any of your books but I am very eager to purchase your book after watching Sally Pressman (one of my favorite actors on Army Wives) play as you in the movie Love Sick on Lifetime. I shed a tear or two because I could empathize with your emotions. I am not a victim of sexual abuse, but did find myself couple times in sexual relationships because I felt that the men I were with "noticed" me. But I somehow found myself to realize that's not healthy and found other healthy ways to get the attention I deserved. I look forward to reading your books, keep up the great work and thank you for sharing your experiences with the world, you're a hero to all I'm sure. Sincerely, a recent fan

10/16/08 Ms. Silverman, I hope that you will publish more of your work. You're incredibly talented at using language to convey a multitude of feelings, describe settings, and give brilliant detail to observations (especially at helping readers understand motivations). Truly, you are one of my favorite authors. You excel at using words to create a "mind movie" for the reader. I will keep my eyes open for another book with your name on it. Whether you choose to write more non-fiction, or if you decide to give us poetry or even fiction, just please give your readers more opportunties to enjoy your literary skills. Like so many others who have left messages: I am immensely thankful that you shared your childhood memories in your memoir, "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You." I want others to read the book, so I asked my librarian to order the title for our community library. All I had to do was tell him why I feel the book is a "must have" in our collection. He agreed with me and immediately input the request into the library's computerized order system. Nicole C. NY, NY

Hi Sue, I was at your presentation yesterday in Kalamazoo. Just wanted to tell you how much I appreciated your authenticity as well as your writing. I'm going to send your website on to my daughter who is also a writer. Kris Badra

Dear Sue I thank you for opening your life for the rest of us, so that we can understand why we do the things we do. Sexual addiction was the furthest thing for my mind, yes maybe I have sex with other men, married men, men who would never truly know or love me, but the power of them wanting me is a wonderful feeling. I know why I want their attention, like many women I was sexually abused by my neighbor and his cousin which lead me down a path of not understanding real love. I fear I will never know how to really love someone the way a “normal” person does. I first saw your story "Love Sick" on Lifetime and while watching I was chatting to my lover on line while my husband wasn't home...I watched the whole story and broke down once I went to bed knowing the story was about me. The next day I searched on-line and decided to buy your book. This book has opened my mind and really gives me a clear direction to fix me. I want to thank you for your courage, because I would have never known the real me if it hadn't have been for your story. Thank you

10/9/08 Ms. Silverman, I am currently reading your memoir, Because I Remember Terror Father I Remember You. I wish I had had the courage to begin this book sooner. I first saw your book shortly after its 1996 release. As I sat in the bookstore, I read large parts of most chapters. I was overcome with tremendous sorrow for your long-term suffering. Simultaneously, I was jarred into consciousness; my own history of childhood sexual abuse came flooding forward. I knew that I couldn't read the book: It would break through the artifice and force me to confront the real me (the part of me that I decided couldn't exist in the present time). I avoided reading the book...for twelve years. After many years of professional failures (several terminations, all attributed to my inability to get along with others, my constant angry disposition, and my tendency to hostily challenge authority), I sought out counseling. Frequent unemployment was bruising my self-esteem and significantly reducing my savings. I took my carefully crafted facade to the first counseling session, but it cracked the moment I was asked about my family. As part of my continuing therapy, I am reading your published testimony. Taking the journey with you helps me to see how you confronted the horrors of personal violation. I too, must revisit much unpleasantness if I am to move forward and heal the rage inside of me. Your willingness to share the truth has, and will continue to, greatly impact lives. Undoubtedly, far into the future, readers will contact you to tell you that they are glad you stepped forth to reveal your experiences. Nicole C. NY, NY

Hi Sue, I have just finished your book and wanted to say that I greatly admire your courage and your capability to share things. I am very thankful to you, it has helped me in my translation. jaymehta

Sue I saw your story last night on WE tv. I was captivated by your story because it was mine. I wasnt abused as a child, but dealt with the same powerless struggle until I became aware of the power of sex. Currently Im married, and I live somewhat of a double life. At this point, I havent seen anyone professionally for help because it hasnt been that 'serious' to me. After I saw your story I visted the site. Im going to buy your book. Thanks for everything Sue. Your courage and honesty and refreshing.

Sue: I just completed "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You." I have never finished a book so fast. I just want to thank you for your courage. You give strength to people who were sexually, emotionally, and physically abused. I was also as a child, and the past still haunts me today in my marriage. I married my husband at 16, I am now 22, and have had over 14 affairs. I made the excuses of being so young and experimenting but i know it is much deeper than that. You are helping me find myself and I look forward to reading "Love Sick" next. I was actually at a garage sale this weekend and stumbled upon a box of free books. I picked yours up. I will not lie I put it down at first because I was scared of the truth. My husband gently encouraged to read it . Obviously I did and I want to thank you.

Sue: Thank you for speaking out. My husband is a variation of a sex/relationship/love addict, and I am the codependent who loves him. In our 8 years of marriage he has had 3 physical affairs and a couple afairs that were more at the emotional level. He has left, moved out, for the second time in our marriage, and this time I am doing everything I can to stop the cycle for me. He is not open to help, he thinks there is no help for him..."I cannot stop" is his response. I am joining a codependent support group and seeking therapy and reading books. I do have one question...was there ever anyone you ever confided in while you were in the addiction? My husband, has always, at some point, come clean to me about the double life, and then was very sorry and swore he would never do it again. Said that he really loves me, but needs to leave since he cannot stop the cheating. I wondered if that was abnormal for the addict or if that was a way of reaching out for acceptance, love and help, or a way to keep me in the cycle. Ilove him, but I cannot live like this, and I cannot raise our son in that...I do not want my baby to have the same addictions. Again, thank you for the having the courage to open up, speak and tell your story to help others. You are a beautiful, wonderful woman with so much strength and courage. I thank you again, and God bless you!!!

Dear Sue, Bless you in having the courage to help yourself, and to help other's. The movie was great. It helped give me answer's, but raised more question's I have to ask myself. Maritza

I just finished about 30-40 minutes ago watching the movie on Lifetime. I've enjoyed Sally Pressman in Army Wives & David James Elliott in JAG as actors but they really were great in this movie. You are a couragous person to get the help that you needed to recover from this & making it known that there is another kind of addiction that not everyone would know about. Also for confronting your abuse as child was not only tramuatic but helped you realize why this was going on in your life. Hats off to a woman who realized she needed the help.

Dear Sue, As another member of NABBW and Boomer Women Speak I was thrilled to see that one of our own was being honored by her marvelous book having been made into a movie. Long before I heard that this was your book, I was tracking the ads on TV for the movie. I adore Lifetime, watch little else for my movies. I feel they offer only quality for their viewers. I got to know the young woman starring in the movie when she was on the series, Army Wives. Your movie is on Saturday night and I will be in front of my TV, a Yorkie on each side of me, and a bowl of popcorn in my lap... I want to congratulate you and say I as a writer too, am so jealous but in a good way. Respectful Regards, Charleen Micheles/Writer-Editor

You are very courageous in sharing your truth with all women. Your sharing makes a difference in many ways but particularly for those who think they are alone. All the best to you. Joyce

I'm at the end of Love Sick. I see so much of my stuff in this book. I have been thinking a lot as I read. Thank you for getting me to think. ~BW

Dear Sue, Were you afraid to publish your memoirs? This is very brave of you. I've read both your books years ago and it was revelatory for me. How did you overcome your fear of being exposed as an author and the intrusion on your privacy by the media? It would terrify me to write what you did and then be open to the public about it. I just want to know how you dealt with it. It would help me as a woman, to understand how another woman can stand up in the public eye and do what you did--- go on television, etc.. Thank you so much for all your help, for existing and telling your story. Aloha, Vicky.

Ms. Silverman, I just finished reading "Because I remember Terror...", once I started I couldn't put it down. I'm in school to become teacher, and have always felt that I want to work in a group home or residential treatment center and teach kids with mental illnesses and trauma related disorders. I don't know why, but I have always felt called to help those kids. I just started volunteering at a shelter/residential treatment center, and in an attempt to better understand where some of these kids are coming from and be able to connect with them better, I checked out several books from the library on abuse, including yours. Obviously many parts were very difficult to get through, and my heart broke again and again for the little girl version of you. So many times I thought, surely soon, someone will figure it out and remove her. After all of the books I have read though, in reading yours I felt for the first time that I might actually understand the tiniest bit how this abuse would feel, and why it impacts girls the way that it does. I know all the symptoms of sexual abuse trauma, the behaviors it causes and so on, but I never felt this kind of insight into why and how these develop.Even more important than how this will help me professionally,is that I have one close friend who was sexually abused by her father for years (from around age 7 up until 12). By the time I met her at age 16, she had slept with around 20 guys and was constantly putting herself in situations where she would get raped and physically abused. Again and again she would call me, ask me to take her to the clinic for the morning after pill,cry and tell me she hated sex and didn't know why she "let" men rape her. I have to admit, I will not lie, in my mind I thought of her as a slut (this is very hard to admit) and I never understood why she acted this way, I thought she liked it. I thought it was as simple as making choices. I knew it had to do with her father abusing her, but I didn't understand, and it was easier to judge than to understand. While reading your book, something inside my head clicked, I understood, and now I love her even more for it. I lent her your book. We are both 23 now, and although she puts herself in dangerous situations a lot less often, I think she is still a sex addict. But now I feel she has a chance of starting to understand better herself why she's this way, and she has at least one friend who will support her in getting help. So, I guess all that is left to say, is thank you, thank you, thank you for the gift of your book! -Randi from Minnesota

I thought I knew what this book was about but reading the excerpt I am not so sure. I guess I will have to read it then.

Sue- Thank You. I just read the excerpt from your book "Love Sick" and alot of it rang so true for me. Though I am not a survivor of incest, I have seemed to look for love of men through sex, like that was the one way I was sure that they were interested in ME. Right now, I am in therapy. I have been in a internet relationship with a married man for more than 2 years. I myself am married with 1 child. While I read your story, I could see me. That no matter how many times I tell my therapist that I'm stopping or lie and say I have, I find myself in a chat room, on the phone or in the dark by myself. I hope to find the strength that you have, to break myself of this. I cannot lose what I have to this compulsive, distructive (to my spirit and soul- if not my marriage) addiction. To know that women have experienced this, and gone through it without a scarlet letter, will help me. THANK YOU!!!! Carroll in PA

As I wrote not so very long ago, "Sex may perpetuate the species but it is love that perpetuates the soul." Sue, once again I applaud your honesty, your fortitude and the strides you are making, paving the path for others to follow. Ricky J. Fico tri-umphs.com

Dead End Streets....When feelings of hopelessness consume me, I want someone else to do the driving. .It seems as though i have worked so hard to stay on the right track of life, yet somehow i always end up on those dead end streets...When was it clear to me that i was on the wrong track? Why couldnt i see? There lies at those dead end streets, all my self worth and respect i once had, i wnat to find my way home and fill up my inner soul with all the self worth i buried on those dead end streets...... Yes I Can....Am i addicted to chaos/ ASm i so used to crisis that i dont know how to enjoy the calm? Do i consider the calm...boring? Do i actually miss the danger? Have i looked at it as exciting? My lack of confidence, smothered with such anquish are just part of the emotions that threaten to stop me in my recovery. Can i turn my self hatred into self respect? Can i learn to love myself? YES I CAN.....by brysonsnanaward

Hi Sue: I am looking forward to meeting you tomorrow at the Bear River Writer's Conference. I am in your workshop and really looking forward to it. Read your book last week - what a ride. What a story. It's just amazing. Pat Miller

I READ YOUR BOOK "BECAUSE I REMEMBER TERROR FATHER I REMEMBER YOU" FIRST LET ME SAY YOU ARE ONE OF THE MOST BRAVEST WOMEN I HAVE EVER READ ABOUT. YOU ARE TRULEY AN INSPIRATION FOR WHAT YOU HAVE DONE. SHARING SUCH A DARK AND HURTFULL TIME WITH MILLIONS OF PEOPLE IS ONE OF THE MOST TOUCHING THINGS A HUMAN BEING CAN DO. I PERSONALLY KNOW DOZENS OF PEOPLE WHO CAN RELATE AND APPRECIATE WHAT YOUR CONTRIBUTION HAS DONE FOR THEM. YOU HAVE PROVEN WHAT EVER LIFE DEALS YOU THERE IS ALWAYS A HOPE THAT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BREAK YOU. THANK YOU FOR SHARINGYOUR EXTREMLEY TOUCHING VIEW INTO WHAT YOU ENDURED. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY THOUGHTS...GOD BLESS YOU.

I read your book, thank you so much for letting other incest survivors (or rape survivors) know about you and that we can be happy and have good lives. I wish I could know somebody like you. I fell in love with you and Mack and your two cats, when I was finished reading the book I wished I could keep reading more. It's hard to say goodbye.

One more thing that I just read one woman say and that is that not many sex addicts seem to have friends, especially women friends and I am one of those. I am so lonely most of the time and long for more friends but have never connected the not having many if any friends to my child hood sexual abuse and sex addiction. That explains a lot about anothe aspect of my life that concerns me a lot. Thanks again, Michelle

I want to read your book...I have read the first chapter on here and I can't believe how much it parallels my life and what I have done. Right now I am searching for someone to connect to, that I can talk to, that I can be open and honest with...I need to feel like I belong somewhere. I feel like such a phony the majority of the time..I feel so lost and lonely, like I am the only one this has ever happened to. I have jeopardized my life and the life of my son and I just want to feel like I am a valued person...not just a thing. I can so relate to what you said about confusing love and male attention. I feel whole, beautiful and lovable when a man pays attention to me and has sex with me. I have really put myself in danger because I feel like I don't have the right to demand a condom or I don't want to be rejected if I insist on a condom. I am going through so many emotions right now to do with that and reading about your childhood sexual abuse which you said you learned that sex was love and I know that is how I have been conditioned to think because of my childhood sexual abuse. Then at one time I told a phsyciatrist about it and he basically laughed at me and said what makes you think that was incest. My cousin who was about 8 years older than me, used to lock me in my mom's bedroom,when he was babysitting my brother and I, and would force me to have sex with him. He would make me feel guilty if I refused. I remember seeing the book Joy of Sex at a friend's once around the same time and it scared the hell out of me because I thought I could get pregnant. I'm sorry I have gone on and on here but I have never related so much to someone as I have to your story and the fact that you have written about it is so wonderful and gives me hope where I really have lost hope. I have been to therapist, psychiatrists, psycologists, groups and so many more places to try and figure myself out and help myself because I get so scared for my son that I am not emotionally healthy most of the time. I try but sometimes I think it is just not enough. I was watching Oprah one day and it was on people addicted to things and this one girl made a statement about not having any purpose in life or what is the purpose and I could relate to that because I often just want to give up because I feel like I have no useful purpose on this earth. My whole life is screwed up and going down fast and I just want to feel normal and be happy but I often think that is impossible. I am so scared to do anything that I just sit in my house and ignore the world...let it pass by and really do nothing for myself. I just don't have the motivation or inclination because I feel my life is a waste. Anyway, enough rambling. Thank you for listening, Michelle

Thank you for this web site, I am struggling with sexual addiction, became involved in recovery and found support in the community. I feel that my problems began when I had inappropriate things happen to me. I feel bad about what I did in the past and wish to make amends when possible.

Hello Sue, I was sitting in a dentist's chair today (3/20/06) when i caught a brief snipet of you on the Montel Williams' show entitled: The Courage to Heal. (good title--reminded me of the Book and workbook) I didin't hear much of what you said because of the sound/action of the drill, and i would like to know if you can provide me with the narrative of your appearance for a couple of reasons. (1) I too am a survivor of incest. As near as my therapist and i can determine, the molestation began before i could speak--approx 18 months old. It continued until the 8th grade when i had a girlfriend/playmate friend who always wanted to come in and get a drink of water after school. My father hated her coming over. I've recently realized that it was probably because that is when he and i would usually be home alone and he would ask me to 'do things for him'...while he masturbated. There were other times as a younger child when he would make me leave the bathroom door ajar so that he could come into the bathroom when i was in there. My sister tells of how as a youngster that i was afraid to go to sleep at night because of the MONSTER that would come into my room/bed. I went through a period in my life which I once termed promiscuous, (that was the word in the 1980s) but when i heard you say Sex Addition today, it struck a chord deep within me. Although this isn't the first time i've heard the term, but for some reason it rang true for me today. Thank God that part of my life is behind me, and i'm healing--one day at a time. (2) There have been several other manifestitations of the incest, one of which is that I have created a not-for-profit organization/foundation (Enfinite Possibilities, Inc.) to protect/prevent school-age children from child abuse, but more importantly to PROVIDE SUPPORT, EDUCATION, AND TREATMENT FOR SURVIVORS. The impact of incest on the children survivors] is monumental! Few people discuss it or know where/how to find help. My goal is to identify where assistance is needed and HELP as many people as i possiblly can to begin healing. My help came out of treatment for severe cliniical depression--I was suicidal and drinking heavily.(approx 20 yrs ago). I began work in the early 1990s and i'm still working to managage my life effectively, one moment at a time. I think a puppy (like your Quizzle) will be my next effort in finding and accepting unconditinal love. Thank you for appearing on Montel's show. I would like to keep in touch with you. This is first time i've written about the incest publicy or to anyone and i'm grateful to have the opportunity. peace, joy to you, ~Madeleine Renee

Sue, I am about to embark on a private journey. I am going to read your book. I am going to write you an email because I really need to express myself to someone that understands what I've been through. I am 51 years old - have such a dysfunctional family. I truly believe all our problems stem from sexual abuse from my father. It's never been told.... the secret. The older I get, the more bothered I've become. I do believe I need (want) to speak with a counsellor - I don't know where to begin... with what snapshot! My father is dead now. I feel anger that I wasn't strong enough to tell, wasn't strong enough to make him pay like he should have. Lately all I think about is going to his grave and putting a sign that reads "I (and my father) sexually abused my 2 daughters". I am going to read your book and I will be writing to you again! Thanks for your courage. AnnieM.

Dear Sue William Silverman, My name is Kimberley and I am currently reading your book Because I remember terror, Father I remember you. I as assigned to read it for a class project at George Brown College. I'm taking The Assualted Women/Children's Adovacte Program. I was hesitant to read it at first already knowing the content of the book. But I have to say I haven't been able to put it down. The things that you had to go through are just atrocious. But the fact that you have been able to recover and live your life I comend you on that. You are a remarkable women. I am anxious to read your second memoir, Love Sick. I thank you again for allowing us to beable to read what you have gone through. If you want to write back, I'm at ***. I would love to hear from you. Again you are a remarkable and courages women. I wish you the best in your life. Kimberley C.

Hi Sue. I read your memoir, Terror and it moved me deeply. It was very honest writing and I am wondering what was going on with your sister? I understand her need to "leave" but as I was reading, I had so many questions about her. I am curious, what's her angle or what's her story--- in a nutshell. Mostly, I cannot believe that you survived this experience, emotionally and spiritually and intellectually as you were able to write about it as you do. And again, in your sucessive memoir. I also wonder, do you still "deal" with the trauma, or do you feel "complete" with it, closure? Thank you for writing and being available to others, Vicky Lee.

Sue...why is that such men are born? And if enjoyment is at the cost of scarring a few lives what is the cost they have to pay and where do they pay it? Why, why , why .....I feel the anguish because someone very close to me .... I love her will always do.

Hi, my name is KIanya and i'm 16. I'm reading one of your books called Terror Father so far it is very interesting and sad. I love the book it's so real. I just wanted to know who was Dina and how many awarads did this book win? Thank you

Its a good and very informative site,,i will be checking it shortly, warm regards Zamir Anjum CEO Pakdesigners

Hi Sue, I have been on this site many times before, but something keeps on drawing me back here. You are a true inspiration to me, and I'm so pleased to have stumbled across your books. Your site is very informative and your brutally honest approach to the subject which you cover is tremendously brave, thank you for sharing your story with the world, as I know first hand just how hard it is, to turn ones life around after abuse, and become a survivor. www.sarasduvet.bravehost.com

I really enjoyed your writing that we had for our class at SUNY Oswego. A lot of what you said in "Love Sick" reminded me of a friend of mine who used to go here. I'm not sure if the causes were/are the same, but the description of your behavior in "Love Sick" and in "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You" seems very similar to my friend. I've wanted to help her ever since she fell into her deprssion, which lead to her being expelled from the school because she refused to attend classes. With what you have written, maybe I can try again to help her. Thank you so much. Jordan

such mixed feelings reading your books, i feel sad that others have endured what i have, but also relieved im not alone either, which is probably very selfish. I hope all the people that have posted such moving messages on this guestbook will some day find peace, with the help of strong people like you sue God bless hannah uk

Dear Miss Silverman, I've just discovered your books, your story . I was surfing the net searching info about kids with special problems and about Torey L. Hayden, who wrote a lot about "difficult" children. I'm a teacher myself. I really appreciated your website and I hope your works will be soon traslated into italian,it's important let people know about child abuse and also a book,evertything, can help.You're a special person and I wish your future will be full of joy,love and professional success.My english is not very good,sorry! All the best(and greetings from Italy): Magic_jam@hotmail.com

Hi, Sue. Michael Fischer here. Hope you remember me;-) I really enjoyed the workshop and already miss the class. You truly care about your students' work, unlike some writer-teachers who just go through the motions. Derrick, Miller (and--sorry:) I all agree that we learned more in a week then we have in other semester-long workshops. I look forward to reading your two memoirs and your future books. Have a good summer... --Michael Fischer, GC&SU, MFA Candidate, cmfischer_78@netzero.com

Hi sue, i just finished reading Because i remember terror. father i remember you. i was really moved. i couldnt even start to explain the feelings that went through my head when reading such horrible things that were being done to you. im so very sorry for that also. im doing an english project on your book (because i remember terror. father i remember you) it would be very helpful if you would send me something explaining how hard your life was growing up with a pedophile father. i just thought i could get your insite on it, and some family photos for a photo album me and my friend are building to show everyone in my class how normal of a child you were growing up, then discovering the horrible things done to you. i cant explain it enough how much i loved reading your book, not because i like reading peoples pain, but i like reading true stories about things like child abuse or sexual abuse, one day i hope to write books as good as yours. Greatful Reader Anna my email if you care to help me out on my project on you for english (deangirl2@yahoo.com) I cant thank you enough


Hi Sue, As an author myself, I know it takes great courage to write about bad experiences in your life... Though I was able to write about my good experiences with my guardian Angel and how I met my hubby, I cannot seem to write about the bad experiences that also happened to me. Your stories have now inspired me to consider writing about the bad things that I'd much rather forget about... thanks for giving all of us the courage to "speak up"! Rosanne Catalano

I have read your book Because I remember .It brought me to tears .I salute you for writing this book as it will help so many people ,I shall leave it in my workplace with a note on it saying that if anybody wishes to read it or pass it on they may.I am now going to order the Lovesick book.Take care .Bernadette x

Thank you for writing the book "becourse I remember therror, father, I remember you. The book means so mutch to me. You are just wonderful! You`r book helps me to go inside myself. I never cried so mutch in my whole life. And I never understand so mutch in my whole life. So thank you for sharing this words with us. It means alot to know we are not alone. Trine Dahl Oanes from Norway

Hey sue, I love your book "Because I Remember Terror Father I Remember you. It happened to my older sister and she told me that she was glad it happened to her and not me. Without my sis i would die. Please write back at ***. Thank you megan

Dearest Sue, I have just finished "Terror, Father" and despite having read accounts, listened to other victims and received various forms of therapy throughout my life, words in your book have undoubtedly hit a "right" note. THANK YOU. I wish you peace throughout the rest of your life.(London, UK)

Dearest Sue, What an authentic lady and author. Your first book is too painful for me as I have deep-seated recollections beginning at age four, as well and yours are very triggering. I am in the process of learning how to put together my first book straight from the heart and yours has been an inspiring piece. I wish you the best and hope that your travels will get you out to Los Angeles as I would sit front row, center stage to see and meet you--- -- A sister survivor Sue Agronick Roth

Thank you for sharing yourself with me through your book, "Terror..." I can not stop looking at the beautiful child on the cover of the book and then looking at the beautiful women that you are today.I fell asleep hugging your book...hugging you, I suppose, and hugging myself, too. I read your book hoping to learn more about myself,actually.It could be my story although I can not seem remember what happened.In fact, I can remember very little of my childhood, except always feeling fearful...especially when "Leave it to Beaver" came on the TV and therefore I knew my dad would be home any minute.I always seemed to be having "emergencies", too. It is such a tragedy that "we all have a story to tell". I wish children could be children. I have five beautiful children and two beautiful grand children. I love to hug and nurture them. Sometimes I even think about myself as a child when I hug them and I give an extra little squeeze.. just for her. Thank you again, so very much for your story. I would very much like to hear from you.Pam

Sue, you have a great web site and body of work. I am the author of "Beyond the Tears: A True Survivor's Story." The genesis of my writing career was much the same as yours. I found my true voice, and my real calling, when my therapist suggested that I write what I know, and I know about abuse and recovery. Love and Light, Lynn Tolson

Sue! Fabulous lady! I thank you for your gift and talent and courage to speak out and write. Truly lives are saved. I too am a survivor. My father was a corporate executive in Chicago, and mother was a Southern Lady! In 1980 my Higher Power had me start a 12 Step and 12 Tradition national and international program for survivors of childhood sexual abuse. I love helping brave, innocent, courageous, heroic survivors. Thanks for giving of yourself so bravely. Blessings from Erin

Sue, I commend your courage and integrity. Your words, like pearls, will enrich many who are fortunate enough to adorn them. I applaud your great work. Rick J. Fico rjfico@aol.com

hello, I am a new reader of yours from Taiwan. The books really helps when I look back to examine my own life. Have a good day Jessica

Hi i was wondering if u culd help me? I am an 18 year old female from the uk and i was sexually abused when i was a child, i have only told 3 people what has happened to me and i was wondering what advice yopu could give me on how to cope with what has happened. Thanks

thank you. my heart feels like it might have broken, but i think nows the time to try and fix it. im giving back the shame to my abusers... no matter how long it takes. (Lucy, Birmingham uk)

I am a survivor of sexual assault by a coworker. I have a site also for survivors of sexual assault. This is the link: http://www.freewebs.com/tearsintherain/ Your site is excellent. My email address is 1@hotmail.com. My name is lyn.

Dear Sue, What a wonderful plethora of information you have on this beautiful site. Thanks so much for all you're sharing. I am a survivor of incest and more recently in my life clergy sexual abuse. What a profound life-changing journey it is. God Bless You. Kim http://www.flywithgrace.com email: flywithgrace@flywithgrace.com

Hallo, herzlichen Glückwunsch zu dieser gelungenen Homepage. Sie ist mir empfohlen worden und gefällt mir gut. Weiter so! Liebe Grüsse http://www.Lusthoelle.com

Hi Sue, Last year I met you at Vermont College. Enjoyed your website. Very nice! What's happening with the cable TV production of LOVESICK? My (8) cats say "MEOw-HELLO" to Quizzle! Take care. Will be in touch. Phyllis from Ann Arbor

Hi Sue, I am also a survivor of childhood sexual assault/sexual assault. To say who some of my abusers were. One my oldest brother (15yrs older)a cousin, a preacher, etc. I admire your courage to write books about your abuse and have them published. I created a website called The Mighty Phoenix. I found it to be helpful in my healing as well as helping others.Take gentle care of you. Marie

Ms Silverman, I'm discovering that I'm a sexual addict and this is very hard to deal with. I don't know that I even want to accept this "label." I crave and enjoy meeting men from the internet for sex; but I have to admit that I'm a wreck afterwards. In my quest for information, I came across your website and book - "Love Sick". I hesitated to buy it (didn't want to admit the truth) but after reading chapter one, I knew I didn't have a choice. I'm terrified of what's to come...will me husband leave (he found out by accident); will my children still love me; how will those in my community view me? Thank you for breaking your silence to help me. I hope and pray I make it through to the other side like you. ee7@yahoo.com

Dear Ms. Silverman, I was searching and searching the web in hopes of finding some encouragement and resources to help me write my memoir. I came across your site and I felt as if I had found a long lost sister. I haven't read your books yet, but I intend to go out tomorrow and purchase both of them and read them full-heartedly. I am a survivor of sexual abuse from the age of 4 to 17. I am writing this story, and how I developed Dissociative Identity Dissorder because of my trauma. I am deeply encouraged by the presence of your books in the world. Thank you for writing. Blessings, Dream

Thanks for your courage. I hope that love has filled the space left empty.

Dear Sue, I was given your web sight by my daughters councilor who attended one of your speeches. I was sexually abused from the time i was 8 till i was 13 i am now 26 and i would like to share my story like you do. For the first time since he hurt me i had to face my step father in prison as he also tried to kill me in november of 1990. He was never charged with the sexual abuse as i didnt have the courage at the time to speak up. I always tried to hide the pain I am just now learning to have the strength to work on this. I know that too many children go thru this and i would like to know how you got started going around talking to kids. please write me at***l80@hotmail.
Thank you, Rasel

Dear Ms. Silverman, In a few weeks you are coming to speak at my Women's Studies class at MCC. I just wanted to mention how much I am greatly looking forward to this. Several students are slightly apprehensive, afraid to offend and are wondering on what subjects to inquire about. Knowing my class, however, we'll probably just end up off subject anyway. :-) We are all anticipating your visit. -
Bonnie Barnhard - Cybrokat@aol.com

i realised that i dont know how to love after reading the chapter from your book on this website/Also i cannot share with my wife the problem of my sex addiction. Pl. emal me on eh64@hotmail.com if u have any advice for me. Thanks

Sue, Sexual Abuse Survivors Support Year-round, Inc. is celebrating its 10th anniversary and is going strong. we have your books listed on our site as we press on to do our part against sexual atrocities- we keep a strong faith and focus on "reaching" others... As a sister survivor, this is my job! I know you share this kinship. God Bless you in your endeavors
V. Bignell, Fdr. Dir. , SASSY, Inc.

Sue, hello I was up late last evening and I came across your interview. I listened to parts of our message....I too am a sex addict. I was glad to hear your story and what I know is it doen't matter how long I have been in recovery the bottom line is I am a sex addict and this addiction can creep up at anytime. I dont know how to deal with stress and panic....which leads me to acting out. There aren't many women who attend SAA meetings and therefore it becomes difficult to attend on a regular basis. I do not have many friends. I dont think addicts do, especially women friends. Anyhow I just wanted to say thanks and tomorrow I am buying your book.
Cathy

I will buy these books....I am having the same problems in my own life, with the abusive memories and addiction. Thank you for helping me bond with another who has gone through the same horrible account.
cherri

Thank you so much for sharing your life with us the readers. I bought your book "Because I remember Terror, Father, I remember you" for myself after my birthday. I started reading it and I just could not put it down. I work at a day care and when the children are taking their nap is the the only time that I can read. I finished your book in only a couple of days. I hate reading and I have always been a bad reader and your book was one of those books that I could not put down. Thank you again for telling us the readers about your life. I can't wait until your second book comes in the mail. :)
Danielle, Springfield MA wigirlinmass@hotmail.com

Sue, I just read "Because I Remember Terror". I am a counselor for emotionally disturbed children and I now have a better insight into what they are feeling and thinking. Thank you so much for using your voice and reaching out to so many people. I love my job and wouldn't trade it for anything. When are you coming to Des Moines, IA? If not soon, then let me know and I'll see what I can do to get you here.
Much love, Melanie (melmarsh@hotmail.com)

Hi, I saw you yesturday 4-2-03 at the Detroit Library and I was very inspired by your talk, you show great courage and I hope to have the courage to write, as I have been encouraged to do, only I have miles to go before my courage could ever be measured to yours...I hope to find some insight in your writings as soon as I can afford to... I entered two painting in the exhibit and hope to someday continue finding my voice...I do have one question, you seem to have found your healing thru a number of ways, writing being one of them, how do you expose with out over exposing? What I mean is: I too was molested and raped several times and continueously by family as well as the final straw raped by an unknown man and now have a downsyndrome child as a result. How do you address something like that without exposing your child too much or causing others to judge her. (jackiexxxx@hotmail.com)

Hello Ms. Silverman: We may have briefly communicated in the last couple of years, but I wanted to again say how inspiring I have found your work. No, I am not a female ... but I managed to acquire my own brand of trauma. I am a former combat helicopter pilot with service in three wars (Vietnam was my first). After multiple marriages and countless affairs, I finally had the wherewithal to get some counseling related to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. As I subsequently RE-discovered, I had also been the victim of "light" molestation by an older neighbor boy (I was 9 ... he was 17). My present wife and I have been married now for 15 years, and we have two young daughters (ages 8 and 10). That's the good news. The bad news is that I still find myself drifting into patterns of sexual compulsiveness (especially on the internet). I'm so glad to "rediscover" your website, and I look forward to delving more into your writings. My e-mail address with transmit my full name, but I ask that you refrain from publishing either on your website. Otherwise, feel free to use my remarks as you see fit. Incidently, I noted your MA in creative writing. My undergrad degree is from the University of Michigan in medieval literature! Kinda wierd for a hot-dog, sexually addicted combat pilot, huh?

Thank you, what an inspiration to us all especially the 'survivors' of this world. Please keep up your hard work, sue. We need more people like you.

Dear Ms. Silverman; I was just searching the Internet tonight looking for "help", as my older sister had earlier recommended that I look for some resources regarding "Debtors Anonymous", etc! I just wanted you to know that I found your Website in the process, and after surveying it thoroughly, I ended up reading your Article (first); "ME AND MY ADDICT: The secret life of a woman sex addict" -In some ways, I really felt that I was reading about myself, and I even cried, 'cause your account touched me so deeply, and also struck a similar chord in my own heart! Although your experiences aren't exactly like mine, (I'm a guy, etc...) they are obviously very, very similar, which is why I could relate! First, I wanted to thank you(!) for sharing your life's experience's on the Internet, where they can help folks like me... (Very brave!) Second, I wanted to tell you I know what it feels like to "'crave things,' "...in order to cure loneliness, a gnawing hunger -and need..." Since earliest childhood I've felt that & I've tried filling my own life w/ every imagiable "thing" trying to get that "love and acceptance"! Well, now after seeing you stories and reading a few of them, I'm going to try & get some help for myself, too. -Thanks again & the warmest regards to all!
-jbmatth (****@earthlink.net)

I am reading your book "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You", as one of my texts for my Women's Studies class, and I believe it to be extremely beneficial. I cannot say that I enjoy it, because of the subject matter, but I think it is a very important work and I am glad that I am able to learn more through your writings. I also feel that I have a little better understanding of the world thanks to your book. Thank you for contributing to the world.
Ivy(feral@bremen.org)

I believe my wife is a sex addict. She has had multiple affairs, with her boss and co-workers. She cannot explain to me why she had the affairs. She never achieved intimacy with me beyond sexual intimacy. She is angry with me because I exposed the affairs and cannot explain the cause for her anger with me. I have tried to get her to marriage counseling, but she is unwilling to work on addressing any issues that caused her infidelity. I was completely devoted to her and always hoped she would return the devotion, but she was never affectionate and always very self-centered. We are separated. When I try to discuss any issues with her she becomes angry and puts more distance between us. I have told her I am worried about her, but she find that amusing. Does this sound like sex addiction to you? What should I do? We have two wonderful children that she has left with me, but she doesn't seem to have any interest in them or me other than her weekly visitations.
LW****@hotmail.com

Sue, I am a recovering sex addict. I just found your site and resd your first chapter. I am stunned. The details are not the same but the essence is. Abducted as a child the confusion of love and sex stretched across the years and enveloped me in anightmare of online addiction escalating to real life affairs, promiscuity, same-sex relations, dangerous liasons, BDSM and confusion. I am sober 10 weeks. I am no less confused; perhaps more-so. I have alwasy wanted to write. I have been keeping a journal all these years, perhaps some day it can be of help to another lost soul. I am looking forward to reading the rest of your book. I am running out today to get it. Thank you for your courage.
-Cheryl, recovering SA, Anchorage AK ****@hotmail.com

Hi Sue, You are quite a talented writer and touch others in very positive ways with your work. I was surprised to see, in your piece on writing memoirs, a reference to the CHE article I wrote. Our article doesn't at all denigrate confessional literature. Women's memoirs have shaped my life too (so much so that I published a book on May Sarton's work, for instance). What the psychologists and I objected to were assignments in classes like freshmen composition or intro to psych which required students to expose themselves by revealing personal details in required essays (writing which would then be graded). Students become concerned over how much or how little to reveal. Anyway, keep on doing your fine work. You're making a great contribution to the world!
Sue (Edited for space considerations.)

Dear Sue, I hope this doesn't sound bad, but for some reason, I don't read much these days. It's strange, because I was an English major in college. Having said that, I just read the excerpt from your book on this site and it was like the old days--finally entranced again, almost 'waking up' at the end of it. You write so beautifully about such a painful subject. You touched my heart and I think it will help me a lot to deal with certain things in my own life, even though I am not an incest survivor. As for not being sure about the worthiness of 'confessional literature,' I think, for me, women writing about their lives has really sustained me throughout mine--Anais Nin was my lifeline as a teenager. And yet...it never even occurred to me to write my dissertation paper about her. Perhaps I never really understood it as 'literature' back then. Sorry for writing so much...you made me think. Thank you for your writing.
Best regards, Anna (annamarie49)

My heart could identify with you in your struggle while reading the excerpt from your book. I too struggle with sex addiction. This is a great site and I thank you for sharing your life with us. It helps to know that we're not alone in our struggles.
Thanks. Ron from Rochester

Thank you so much for sharing your life. You have touched me I am blessed to have come across your writings. Congratulations on your books. I was abused also and addicted to sex and Love. I just finished writing a book. I am new to writing. I emailed you from another email address and sent you my website address that explains my feelings and my recovery with sex addiction and booze and drugs. Thank you for being here. Peace and Love to you.
Angela

I'm like the others who said Thank You for writing. I haven't read your books yet, but I will. I'm working out in my life why I was so shy, yet so sexually driven toward men. Of course, abuse, but it's still in the working stage, though I thought it was finished. Yet, things come back. Partly because I haven't written this last novel which includes the abuse. I have faced the molester and found HE needed forgiveness. The timing was right though I still contained anger. He had worried about me all those years. And, yes, I believe him now. Yet he will always remain in my mind the "bad guy." At least until this day. Who can tell about future days?
ODunahoo@aol.com

I just want to say that you are a very courageous woman. Keep doing what you are doing--you've helped so many and can help so many more.
Cheri (Cheri_Carpenter@excite.com)

I just wanted you to know I visited your website and will share it with the students I come in contact with who may need your sharing. You're one of my favorite people!
Tamara Steil (tsteil@gpsk12.net)

The book excerpt on this page has helped me to put some personal matters in a much needed and better perspective. I look forward to reading your most recent book. Thank you for being so honest.
Terrence

Great web page. My father worked for Truman too. Think I'd better read your book.
Maggie Kast (maggie@enteract.com)

Congratulations on your opening this impressive homepage!! I feel so happy to visit here and see that you and your books are appreciated and loved so much by many fans. It is absolutely due to not only your courageous activities and insight but also your warm personality.
Love, Shiori K.

Dear Sue, I recently finished "Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You." I'm glad to have found this outlet to tell you how profoundly your story affected me. I never believed I could have such an emotional reaction to any book! Please know that I think you are a woman of the utmost courage. I have two small sons, and now have a strong desire to adopt a little girl, to love and protect. Thank you!
Catherine Frisbie (cfrisbie@yahoo.com)

Wonderful writing...Sue, I am flabbergasted. It is an honor to have you a member of our group. We are amidst a celebrity of the kind I absolutely revere.
Kay (kaysayed@yahoo.com)

Hi Sue! I wanted to thank you again for speaking to my class (Gail's seminar). It was so incredible to see you in person; truly I will never forget it. I was especially impressed with the positive attitude you have. You were so positive and joyful in fact, that at times I had a hard time connecting you with the story you told in your book. But I think that is a good thing! Thank you for writing your story. I hope you always will.
Jessica Moran (k01jm05@kzoo.edu)

Sue-the website is great. I enjoyed your presentation at A Woman's Prerogative in Ferndale very much. I'm really looking forward to reading Love Sick. If the writing is even half as wonderful as Because I Remember... it is bound to be an inspirational read. Love you!
Sandy Supowit (sandysupowit@aol.com)

Hi, Sue, i'm a sixteen year old High School student I read both of your books and there great. The books were kind of scary and frightening to me because, i've done alot of research and book reports on child abuse and incest but that was the only time i heard a story told like that. i really feel you, i feel that you have so much knowledge on things and i would just like to keep in contact with you i own both of your great books. My lilsister is only 12 but when she is in her teens i'm going to let her read your books. i know she will be sad because of what happened to you, but she will be proud of you the way I am because you got thru it and your a survivor! i love you Sue....i